As for us girls it's equally important that we wait. It show the guys we are demanding they show us respect, not only here but in all aspects. This has happened to me several times. the key is to wait happily, if it becomes to long ask politely if he will be getting your door. I have not ever got a "no" but I'm sure it can happen, in that case you have found that this is your first and only date with this BOY.
As the night progresses and you go out to dinner or movie or whatever. You wait to see if he pays, if he doesn't we'll that ends that (special circumstances, previously discussed, Maybe an exception to the rule)
Then as for PDA...Someone who feels that they can't show those around you that he cares for you even by just holding your hand in public isn't someone who isn't proud to be with you. Therefore neither should you be proud to be with him. Sounds like an issue from the get go.
If the only time you hear how attractive you are to your man is when he is with the guys and he uses sexy, or hot as the only descriptive words, you may need to worry it's all about image to him. But If you hear in private as we'll and he uses kind loving words like beautiful and gorgeous, you may just find you a short or long term keeper ;)
Now as for showing respect, it shouldn't have to be a regular topic it should be understood and shown at all times. There isn't much to say other then there is no reason on a first date he should not show you respect. As well as you him. But the exceptions still exist, such as, abuse Any form (physical, mental, sexual)
Another topic that goes with it is boundaries. You should make yours clear know his and don't let him push you even a little out of those values. Stand strong be strong.
Now for the final topic I'd like to touch on is a worker vs supporter. Most men can tell you the moment they went from being a worker to a supporter. Let me lay this out for you. A worker, works to get what you have to have and nothing more and no bells or whistles. A supporter is one that will do whatever it takes to have the best his family can have, someone who thinks having insurance and a home for his family is more important then a guys night out. To me a supporter is when a boy turns to a man, where all the sudden working isn't about getting him toys or the new phone it's about have what is family needs. The food, health insurance, a home, and is willing to fight to keep it, and do whatever it takes no excuses!
Boys
- Tell you they love you
- Get in the car first
- Offer to pay for dinner
- Hold your hand in the car
- Tell his friends how "sexy, hot" you are
- Tell you they respect you and your values
- Try and find your boundaries and then push them a bit
- A worker
Men
- Show you they love you
- Get your door coming and going
- Pay for dinner no questions asked
- Hold your hand every chance they get
- Show and tell you how "beautiful and gorgeous" you are.
- Respect you and your values
- Know your boundaries and fully respect them
- A provider
Now let me just say this is my opinion, my views, my thoughts. There are exceptions to ALL rules. And there is no reason to be little my thoughts or anyone else's. So with that being said all of these can also be the difference between a girl/women. Hope you all enjoyed my thoughts for today :)
